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Remembering Nanny

Coach's Note:

Death is part of life: people die. Bereavement is the actual loss of an intimate relationship; grief is the reassimilation of reality accepting the vital loss. Sometimes, families are not effective in helping one another grieve bereavement. Some quiet down, some act like it did not happen and some just do not want to deal with the emotional loss. Unresolved grief creates a tremendous burden over time. I usually don't even address bereavement for a least two years and am not really concerned for five years. In this particular case, a young thirteen year old loved Nanny, the grandmother. She was awesome and a bedrock of stability. Twenty years later, as an adult, the nanny finally received her eulogy that the thirteen year old needed.

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Dear Nanny,

I'm writing a letter to you to tell you that I miss you very much and I wish to see you again. I was thirteen when you died, now I am thirty-two. I want you to know that you were the world to me. It really tore the family up when you passed on. I was looking in your purse for a life insurance policy but all I found was a note that you wrote to God, it said .I love my Jesus and my Jesus loves me.. I was for some reason very angry that God had taken my Nanny from me after such devotion. To die with not a penny to her name, and with out mourning. I'm trying to get over all that now, I want to be happy, I know now you are in a better place without pain. You taught me to love the Lord and that's the only thing I need in my life to be happy. I love you Nanny and I love your Jesus.

(signed)